Ask yourself these 5 simple questions to (still) rock your 2019.
By Eleni Meraki
2 min. read
It's July and we're half-way through the year. A perfect time for a mid-year self-assessment. How are you getting on this year? Is 2019 representing what you had in mind for yourself?
Every year we tend to have some sort of to-do or a wish-list of things we want to do differently or achieve that year. Sometimes these are vague aspirations, sometimes more concrete goals. It doesn’t really matter. What matters is, simply, if you’re actually growing and working towards what you had your mind set to.
I like mid-year self-assessments much more than new year resolutions. I like the word assessment much more than resolution. It somehow gives more power.; you assess and make changes. a resolution sounds more like a “wish” to me.
So, this year I did a self-assessment last month, in June. And it t was a game-changer.
I can wholeheartedly say 2019 has been a BIG year for me so far with many personal and professional re-routes and deepening my roots into the earth. Visiting my family and friends last month in Amsterdam I found the time and space to do a little self-assessment. I literally sat down at a cafe and had a thorough and brutally honest conversation with myself asking these 5 questions that I’d like to share with you today.
Question One. Where am I now and what is going well in my life?
What have you achieved so far this year and where are you proud of. It’s good to acknowledge your accomplishments and your growth in your life. So, start off with that.
Question Two. What is not going well at the moment in my life and needs change?
What are the issues/challenges in your life and what is the most pressing one that you can work on straight away. When you do this assessment and you pick one pressing issue, you have to make sure that this issue is something you can take control over. You cannot change something that is outside of your control. Sounds logical, but how often do we worry and feel bad about things that are outside of our own control, right?
Question Three. How do I feel about this issue in my life and how do I want to feel instead?
Be crystal clear and specific about your feelings on this particular issue in your life. Try to come up with at least 5 feelings that you have about the issue and 5 feelings that you want to have instead. Words are a very powerful tool and when you use and pick them wisely they can turn you into the right direction.
I recently started to create goals based on what I want to feel. Where traditional goal setting is based on what you want to achieve, feeling-goals are based on what you want to feel. Essentially every goal we set is based on the deeper urge to feel in a certain way.
Question Four. What can I change to come closer to how I want to feel?
Are there more factors at play for the way you feel? Is it only this issue that make you feel all these feelings or are there more? And what can you practically do to change the way you feel?
Question Five. How can I practically overcome this issue in my life?
Action. Who can help you or how can you help yourself? Do you need to study or learn something new? Is there any information missing you can get from someone?
I wrote the answers in my notebook and came to the decision that I needed a coach to help me on becoming a better entrepreneur. I have many dreams and ideas but I was struggling to make them happen. I didn't have the frameworks. So I searched for a coach specialised in coaching coaches (ha, that's a bit of a mindf***). Back in Athens, I started a trajectory with him and it's been truly a game-changer for me.
I started doing this work as a coach and hypnotherapist from a deep urge to be of service in this world and help other people. Which has been truly a remarkable journey and there is no way I can ever go back to my advertising career. Yet, making my passion a profitable business has been a whole other challenge in my life. I was lacking some skills, I was lacking important knowledge and I needed to come to terms with that. I needed to invest in my entrepreneurial self.
Even though admitting to myself that I needed help wasn't easy, I knew that this was my key to move forward professionally.
We tend to want to prove to ourselves (and others) that we don’t need help. Like “we should know how to do this or that”. And that’s complete bullshit. When we need help physically we go to a doctor, so why not go to a mentor, a coach or a teacher when we lack entrepreneurial, relationship, career or any other knowledge?
The educational system is broken. We don’t learn how to be happy successful individuals and so we’ve got to take ownership and educate ourselves to gain that knowledge, understanding and awareness of ourselves and improve our own lives.
So, just like you would go to a doctor for a yearly check-up I’d like to encourage you to do a little check-up with yourself today. You deserve to be healthy but also happy, confident and free.
And if you need any assistance in your journey click here for more info on how I can help you.